Girl Land, like so much writing about young women and sexuality, concentrates on what has been lost. The central argument holds that women have effectively been duped by a sexual revolution that persuaded them to trade away the protections of (and from) young men. In return, they were left even more vulnerable and exploited than before. Sexual liberation, goes the argument, primarily liberated men—to act as cads, using women for their own pleasures and taking no responsibility for the emotional wreckage that their behavior created. The men hold all the cards, and the women put up with it because now it’s too late to zip itback up, so they don’t have a choice.
But this analysis downplays the unbelievable gains women have lately made, and, more important, it forgets how much those gains depend on sexual liberation. Single young women in their sexual prime—that is, their 20s and early 30s, the same age as the women at the business-school party—are for the first time in history more successful, on average, than the single young men around them. They are more likely to have a college degree and, in aggregate, they make more money. What makes this remarkable development possible is not just the pill or legal abortion but the whole new landscape of sexual freedom—the ability to delay marriage and have temporary relationships that don’t derail education orcareer. To put it crudely, feminist progress right now largely depends on the existence of the hookup culture. And to a surprising degree, it is women—not men—who are perpetuating the culture, especially in school, cannily manipulating it to make space for their success, always keeping their own ends in mind.
I said in response then and repeat now:
I envy not any father of a young lady on her way to college. My heart would break to think that a daughter of mine would buy into any part of Rosin's twaddle.
As an uncle to six beautiful nieces, all of an age to make their own decisions as to how to live and as to who they are becoming, I hope and pray they see Rosin's piece for what it truly is.
A delusional discourse on depravity.
Today I watched Fr. Barron's latest video and he speaks to this issue with more eloquence and likely much more effect:
Wisdom that ought to be heard by all.
Do you part and pass that wisdom on.
You could very well impact some young woman's life.