I have no daughters.
I do have nieces.
I think each one of them should read the following... I think every woman should read the following:
Growing up, I knew I loved beautiful clothes, twirling for ages in any fabric that would float about me. As a teenager, I ached and grasped for some standard of beauty. My true and real feminine desire to please others – to be admired by others – got twisted into an equation that our culture tells us adds up correctly, but that in reality leaves us far from the right answer:
Stares from men = attention. Attention = attractiveness. Attractiveness = beauty. Beauty = worth.
I never was any good at math.
It may be safe to say many women feel this way. Consciously or not, we understand that fashion is a tool that communicates our desire to feel and be beautiful. Why else would we gravitate towards pretty things and care about what we wear, as well as cringe at the sight of sandals and socks?
Fashion speaks volumes about who we are as women – and who we want to be. Too often, in the attempt to present ourselves as beautiful, we fall victim to trends that equate ideal, mature beauty with “sexiness.” The relentless striving to be “sexy” can distort a woman’s longing to be desirable in the best sense of that word. Straining for attention, women can often hide behind trends…even hide behind their own skin.
I know, because I hid behind my appearance to validate my yearning for self-worth. This familiar, yet epidemic mindset is one of the many reasons I helped found Verily Magazine, a new publication that’s starting a fresh conversation on beauty, relationships, culture and lifestyle. By featuring fashion that complements rather than compromises a woman’s dignity,Verily hopes to invite all women to come to know their own worth.
There's more and I think it good.
We need to recapture what beauty is.
It's not what too many think it is today.