Secrets to a good marriage

Alysa at World magazine's blog is soliciting secrets to newlywed bliss.  Here's what I left over there:

In June, my wife and I will celebrate 25 years together as a married couple.

I wish I could pinpoint for others the secret to that success.

I can't.

Except to say that my wife is a unique person. Beautiful inside and out, having the ability to lift me when I'm low and tether me when I'm flying a little too freely.

She's not just my lover but my best friend, my confidante, a trusted advisor and a shelter for stormy times.

Our beginning brought turmoil to my family yet our relationship is fodder for the mindset that believes in silver linings.

So maybe I do know the secret to a sound marriage.

It's marrying a girl like my wife.

I mean every word.

Comments

[MMM]

Awwwwwww..... :)

[Nicks]

Thanks Rick, April be my 28th anniversary. Over the years I have often heard God’s voice asking me “you want Me to treat you like that?”

Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church….

Remember, behind every great man is a woman asking “who, him?”

[Mrs. B.H.]

The secret...really it's simple...treat your spouse the way you like to be treated. Love only grows deeper from there.

We were told a story not long after we were married. There was a newly married couple who occasionally left things laying around. The husband didn't like some of the things the wife left around and vice versa. They argued for days over why the other left their things laying around and not pick them up. Finally after talking with some others who had been married for a very long time and asking what one secret was, the answer was simple. It only takes a few seconds to pick something up and put it away..even if it's for the other person. But, exclaimed the young couple in tandem, you don't understand. If I always pick it up, how will the other learn to put it away. I am not here to wait on my spouse. Ok, said the wiser, older couple; how long would you estimate it takes you to pick up, for example, your spouses dirty socks, even if it is every day. Or, put the top on the toothpaste and put it away. After much thought, each spouse answered about five seconds. So, even if you did it every day, it takes 35 seconds a week, and less than 5 minutes a month, and less than 50 minutes a year. Is that amount of time worth fighting over for days? From then on, the younger couple did not fight over the trivial things. They grew into a much wiser and older couple who passed their secret on to others.